It is all about your mindset
As a human being with a mindset, it is natural for you to keep collecting experiences from your surroundings and fellow human beings. After all, you learn to react and behave in appropriate manner based upon these past experiences. You become used to holding on to things and latch on to not just events and experiences but also memories, both pleasant as well as horrifying. You do not know why you do it but in a strange way it seems fulfilling to hold on to things and situations from the past. It turns out that no real purpose is served by holding on to your past. There are no benefits and by doing so, you only cling to past that holds you back.
Let go of incidents as they are your past
You must be aware of the fact that many of your decisions in present life are based upon your experiences in the past and mindset. If someone said or did something to you years ago, you continue to hold a grudge against that individual for years even though it serves no purpose in your life. In fact, that person may not be even aware of your feelings while you justify your emotions and actions on the basis of that once incident that took place so many years ago. If you do not let go, the incident and the person become a part of your life story and hold you back.
See the power of letting go by de cluttering your home
The power of letting go works on not just feelings and emotions but also people and stuff you use in life. If you make a promise to yourself that you would touch everything in your home and ask if it is really useful or not, you would be surprised to know that there is so much of clutter that needs to be thrown out of your home. You feel lighter and your home starts to look cleaner and more organized than before when you conduct this exercise.
Feelings & memories
The same letting go experience takes place inside you when you replace objects with feelings and memories. Do the memories and experiences inside your mind really useful or you are just holding them as clutter? Once it becomes clear to you in your mind, you find that you can de clutter and clear your mind of all the rotting ideas and experiences that have held you back in life.
You have to win the battle mentally
When was the last time you tool a closer look at all the household items lying inside your home? I guess it must have been ages ago. You have become so busy with your schedule and life that you keep on buying things without getting rid of all the clutter that keeps piling on. Why are you not giving away things or throwing them away when you do not use them or need them?
Emotional attachment to things
Let us understand why you, like others, keep on buying and storing things without using them? The answer lies in your tendency to feel fearful when asked to lose things that you believe are yours. You develop emotional attachment to things and love to keep them around even though you never use them. But believe me, you start to feel lighter and better as soon as you decide to dispose of things that you do not need or never use.
Let things go
Remember the time when you, as a small kid, were pedalling furiously at your bicycle and suddenly looked back to realize that your dad had let go of the bicycle. Or the time when you were moving hands like a butterfly furiously to somehow learn to swim when you suddenly found that your mom had let go of your body and you had actually started to swim on your own. Yes, you were not drowning but swimming on water. The same is the feeling when you decide in your mind more than physically to let go of things, people, and relationships.
The fear of losing
You must have gone through crippling fear of losing an object, gadget, job, or a relationship. In fact, it is this fear of losing these things that makes one hold on to them even when they have lost their value or usefulness in life. Dive under your terror and let go of things. You will find that most amazing things in life happen when you decide to let go. A small bird fears for his life and seeks protection of its mother. It does not think it could fly like mother. This goes on for long until it decides to let go of his fear.
Barriers in life
Not letting go is a mental barrier that blocks you from exploring new opportunities in life. The same is the case with relationships that you value so much even though it is pretty clear that they have actually become toxic and are harmful for you. The fear of the unknown and the tendency to hold on to something that you consider valuable actually prevent you from trying new things in life.
Master your mindset and go to the future
Just remember that you have only one life to live. You have been bestowed by god almighty with the power to reason and to think logically. Holding on to things and relationships does not augur well for your future as it can adversely affect your finances, business, and overall psyche. It is the fear of what will happen that freezes your mind and limbs. But believe me, once you decide mentally that you are letting go, you actual start to soar in the skies as you feel light and relaxed. And remember it is all about your mindset.
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Eefke Bodt is the founder of Tummo Coaching. My clients are managers, business owners, expats and executives. They want to get better at leading others through change, find more focus and a more sustainable balance between work and life, or reignite their career. In my role as a Mindset coach I will help them tackle those challenges effectively and build the meaningful career that they long for.
I bring them years of experience working with leaders across the globe as a Business Coach, past HR professional and running my own consulting firm. And the lessons learnt from my personal experience of those turning points that my clients face in their career. I trained and earned my credentials as a certified professional coach through some of the most rigorous curriculums of the coaching industry, such as: Professional Certified Coach, Certified Life Coach, and several courses of the American Board of NLP, Social and Emotional Intelligence Coach and Motivational Coach.
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The Hague, in the Netherlands is my hometown and I coach in Dutch and English. I work with clients worldwide, through Skype and over the phone, as well as in-person when geography allows it. If you’d like to discuss your specific situation and see if I may be able to help you or some of your leaders? Or you want me to hire as a Mindset coach? Feel free to get in touch with me through my Contact Form or call me +31 617 554930 or via my skype ID: eefke.bodt. Please surf to my Private coaching page if you need some extra information or visite My Freesbies page to read and use several free e-books about Mindset coaching.